AKA Parental Alienation. Huge no-no. It's becoming more and more recognized in court. Especially when there's a bond between the parent that's being cut off & the child.
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We clearly have plenty of evidence of parental alienation. Cinderella's mom has blocked us from all contact with her including but not limited to, the phone, email, blocking us from her facebook, sending nasty messages to my honey's facebook under her daughter's account & publishing it on his wall (before she blocked us), she has threatened numerous times with, "You'll NEVER see her again!", Cinderella's mom talks terribly about us to her daughter. While she's with us Cinderella gets MANY texts asking her to come home, if she misses her mom, how everyone there misses her, how she needs to come home, she's needed there, she's not needed here, THEY are her family, we are not. Etc.
Don't even get me started with the step father in that relationship. He's actually worse than the mom sometimes. Demanding that we bring Cinderella home early from visits with us, bringing up my honey's past, saying that he has drug charges & has been arrested numerous times for possession & DUI. (He doesn't have ANY of those. If you know me, you know him, look it up. It's public information.) However Step dad was & has been charged with DUI a couple of times that I know of.
When Cinderella left this last time, she was extremely nervous & upset. She didn't want to go home. I promised her that it would be rough for a while but that eventually everything would be ok and she WOULD see us again. It seemed to calm her a little bit. I looked at her & said, "Princess, daddy & I won't let you go again. I promise you. We won't stop until we get to see you." She gave me a huge hug & got out of the car. I cried for a while afterwards. For the pain that I'm sure she's going through.
My problem with all of this is, my mom is dying. I've said before that she has two, stage IV Lung cancers (Squamous Cell & Adenocarcinoma), Cinderella & I have talked about grandma dying & I've point blank asked her if she wants to be at the funeral. (It's my need to have a 'plan' for everything no matter how gruesome) She wants to be at grandma's funeral if she passes. As of right now, how are we to contact her? Her mom wouldn't let her come anyhow. Exactly how is this benefiting Cinderella? It's not. It's not because it doesn't fit her mom's agenda. At this point I'm not even sure she would let Cinderella come to her own dad's funeral.
Obviously I know, as Cinderella gets older, she'll remember a few things. Dad & *My name* never talked poorly about my mom, they never talked poorly about anything around me, if they fought, I didn't see it. I was able to be a kid at their house. I don't have to babysit non stop unpaid!, I don't have to worry about dad & *my name* drinking. (Sure her dad might have a beer once and a great while, but he won't do it in front of the kids. He doesn't even do it in front of my children!!)
Most importantly, I hope that Cinderella realizes that through all of this bs that her mom is putting us through, we don't blame her for it AT ALL! She is without a doubt the most loved little girl ever. Granted she's not little but still.
In the end what separates us from them is that when we do things, we do them for the best interest of the children. All 4 of them.
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