Jealousy

This is one that I don't often get. I'm not jealous of Cinderella, I'm not jealous of my honey's ex. I'm sure as hell not jealous of my ex's wife either. However, I've been accused of all. I think it's the single most hurtful & wasted emotion to be jealous of anything.

I feel as though it's my place to support Cinderella in all of her endeavors. It's my honey's too but this is about being a step-mom not a dad. When I was allowed on her facebook, if she had a good time, I would like it. If she was having a bad day, I'd give her words of encouragement. If she was here with us, hugs are free. I love yous go a long way. I've always told all of my children, if you need something, let me know. If I can get it for you or give it to you, I will. Completely true & honest statement. If you want to talk, I'm here. It stays between us unless I absolutely can't keep something a secret. Ex: If someone's going to get hurt, if it's something illegal etc., then I have to tell.

This past visit while Cinderella was here she said, "I think I deserve a hug." This blew me away. How dare a child think that she need to 'deserve' a hug to get one?!?! They're FREE! Why not give one to her anytime she wants one?!?! I do & did hug her a bunch.

I love yous flow like a fountain in this house. They always have. My honey & I say it often, my children & I say it often. When Cinderella is here she probably hears it no less than 20 times a day. I also make sure to tell her how thankful I am that she's my daughter too! The ritual of tucking the kids into bed consists of, "You're my favorite *insert age* ever!!" or "Did you know that you're my favorite *aged* kid?!!?" This generally brings lots of giggles & it's a feel good statement. The only time this doesn't really work is when Cinderella & my oldest are the same age. Then it's "Did you know you're my favorite *aged, hair color, eye colored* kid?!?! Even at their ages it makes them smile & laugh. That's what it's all about.

Moving on to Cinderella's mom of me being jealous of her. Not.Even.Remotely.Close.Sweetheart. I could go on and list probably 50 reasons why I'm not jealous but that would be a waste of time b/c it would be turned into "OMG SHE IS REALLY JEALOUS OF THAT!!!" Really. I'm not. So that's pretty much a moot point. Just know, that I'm not. I've never been. I'll never be. The day I ever do.. someone kill me.

From my ex husband's wife's angle, I'm jealous of her as well. In reality, I'm really glad that she came along!! I'm sorry that she's the way she is... BUT she took my main problem in life which was nice. It's nice not having to speak to, or really have anything to do with the ex, unless it has to do with the kids.

One thing that bios need to realize is this, just because we have your ex man, doesn't mean that we want your ex life or your current life for that matter. We want our own life. Apparently your ex life didn't work out for you so why would we want it? I can guarantee you that my ex husband's wife doesn't want the life that I had with him. Just as I don't want the life that my honey had with his ex. It didn't work. But obviously we're doing something right b/c it IS working for us now.