May 24th, 2008

And so it starts....

My honey & I are together. That's our anniversary after all. I have 3 kids, he has 1. I've known about her for 2 years since we were best friends before we actually got together. He struggled to have a relationship with her as he was battling his own demons & just trying to survive.

My love & I met in a chat room in 2006. We were only friends as I was still married. We never ever crossed the proverbial line. Ever. I left my ex 12/7/2007. We didn't actually meet in person until 3/2008. I was with someone else & so was he. The sparks were unimaginably hot. We never mentioned this to each other or anyone else.. My current relationship failed, his did as well.

5/23/2008 He invited me up to his house & I said, "That's fine but just as friends!" he agreed.

5/24/2008 He greeted me in a towel. Literally. The man had just gotten out of the shower. I looked at him & rolled my eyes & said, "Go get dressed." He did. Later that day, he gave me a foot rub.. he says it was less than 4 hours I say it was a 4 hour foot rub. Then he kissed me. I reminded him that that single action changed EVERYTHING. He said, "I know." I love yous were exchanged and there it was. We were officially together.

I met his folks about a month later or so. They adored me, I adored him. Life was amazing. He was getting along well with my folks & my kids so why not.. everything was awesome.

The long conversation came up about his daughter. I said, "Once things are stable with us & we make sure that we're going to last, then it's probably time to get back into her life." There were questions from him, him thinking that she might be better off since it'd been so long. He'd seen her here & there but nothing consistent. This all changed a year later. 9/2009 His daughter found him on facebook & added him. He almost didn't accept her friend request because he was scared. He wasn't sure what to do. He didn't want her to hate him but also didn't want to interfere.

He accepted and they talked. She didn't hate him, she missed him terribly & via her own mother's words, "She talked about him every day, I don't understand their bond, he's crapped out on her many times & she still loves & adores him." We had her for a weekend & we went to the pumpkin patch & bought pumpkins. She got along wonderfully with my children. It was as though she hadn't ever been out of our lives. She & I formed an instant bond as well. She is & always will be an amazing child, who is now, stuck in the middle.

For the first year things were awesome. I actually considered her mom a pretty good friend. We spent Christmas 2009 night at their house. Yes, we actually spent the night there. My kids, my honey, their family & I. It was a good time. Her mom & I spent hours in the basement talking. The one fair warning that I give to everyone is, "I'm as nice as I can be, you mess with my family & I become atrociously mean." Ok, really it was, "Fuck with my family and I will fuck with you." Apparently that wasn't believable though.

She will soon find out how that really is.