My Ex. It's imperative to know that my children have a step mom as well. I'm on both sides so I see it all. I left my ex 12/7/2007. The day before his birthday. That was more coincidence than anything aside from the fact that he told one of my friends (whom he thought he was going to get to sleep with, turns out she's a lesbian, which I knew all along) that all he wanted for his birthday was for me & the kids to be out of the house. So Happy Birthday, you got your wish even before you blew your candles out.
3 weeks later a friend of mine's son overheard one of my ex's friends tell him, "Go get your willy wet." I stayed calm, sort of, that was his weekend to have my kids. I called Saturday morning & of course my children told me ALLLLLL about it. I stayed calm, as long as she was good to my kids I was fine with it & looked at it as though he was her problem!! The only time I waivered on this was when he threatened to file for full custody of my children. Uhm, No. I had been a stay at home mom for the whole 7+ years that we were married. I was there for EVERYTHING for my children. YOU will not take them. With my parent's support (financially & emotionally) I filed for divorce first. I sued him for full, sole, complete custody of my children and for child support and alimony.
My son's birthday is in March. I was NICE and invited him & his new thing. I provided presents for my son that said they were from ex & his thing. I paid for them to get into the party place. I was very nice, open & supportive of this new relationship with the new woman. After all I am mom, for me, that's not a title, it's a word that you have to put action behind.
Things went well for a while. The divorce wasn't too bad & not exactly nasty either. I was actually thankful for this new woman because she took his want for me away. It made him not want to fight anything in the divorce. All he wanted was out, same as I. 7/29/2008 My divorce was finalized. I was thrilled. I could finally close that chapter in my life & I did.
Today in 2011 I do not get along with my ex husbands wife, my children's stepmother. She has berated me as a mom, told my children within earshot of them how much she HATES them, threatened to commit suicide, and last but not least told my 7 year old daughter, "If your dad would've kept his dick in his pants we wouldn't be fighting." The last overnight visit he had with my children was 4/29/2011 when I picked them up at 10pm because he feared for their safety. So much so that he signed a paper saying that it was in the best interest of the children NOT to have anything to do with their stepmother. Then 2 weeks later he faxed another copy of that, typed, to my attorney.
Since 4/29/2011 he has seen my children a total of 2 hours, without his wife. They are still NOT divorced.
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