Round & Round we go.

Wow, the need to update 2 different sections of my life.. how weird. (After typing this out I've decided to make it 2 separate blog posts)

First things first, since this one is about being a step mom, I'll update on Cinderella first. She's doing ok. Not great but ok. Her mother on the other hand is being psychotic. We had a fantastic lesson in this when her mother refused to let her grandmother take her to her brother's baby shower because she was mad at her son. Telling Cinderella that he was a bad influence. Really? That's your daughter's best friend. The son that YOU raised & you're now telling your daughter that he's a bad influence? Way to go dumb ass!!!

My Cinderella got in the car a few weeks ago & said that we NEEDED to go shopping because her mom & step dad were going on vacation & she needed clothes. I said, "Well sweetheart, if your mom & step dad has money to go on vacation then they have money to take you shopping." As heartless as this sounds, we just bought a TON of clothes for her last summer that she STILL fits in & that flatter her figure. She said, "Well my mom takes my clothes." I said, "That's an issue for you & your mom to figure out." I talked to my honey about it & he agreed. He is not funding her wardrobe, especially when we spend a ton in child support & travelling expenses.

This past time that I got my Cinderella she said, "I have a field trip at the end of next year & my mom said that if you guys pay for 1/2 she'll pay for 1/2." I said, "That was nice of her, how much is the trip?" She said, "$1,000.00." I said, "If it's your trip then I think that you should have to raise money as well instead of just having the money given to you." She said, "If I don't go, I'll be the only one in my family who doesn't get to go!" I said, "I suggest you start raising money then huh? A friend that you know, raised $2,000.00 to go to Hawaii & she's younger than you." Cinderella said, "How?" I said, "She worked her butt off & went door to door asking for donations." I said, "You'll have to talk to your dad about it, he's the one that makes the decisions about money concerning you." I texted my honey on the way home & he flipped shit. He said, "Ah no, she needs to raise SOME money on her own. I will help but not 1/2." Problem is whatever we don't give her mom & grandma will give so that way she doesn't have to raise any on her own. We think that she should have to EARN some money herself.

I discussed this with my child who is the same age & she said, "Yeah, we got the same brochure mom, ours said $2000.00, I know we don't have that kind of money so I just pitched it." Bless her.

We don't mind supporting Cinderella in her adventures but for her to expect money is ridiculous. Not to mention the exorbitant amount that we pay in child support & health insurance for her. We know that that money does not go for her living expenses because utilities are shut off at any given time & her mom & step dad drink it away. They have people showing up from rent-to-own places while Cinderella is home alone repo'ing TV's. I mean really. Come on now. Stop over-extending yourself!

Recently we got papers in the mail saying that his ex wants to keep the visitation arrangements the same. No, we are still going for FULL custody. While they were on vacation her step dad posted every single day about how drunk he was. FANTASTIC! They allowed Cinderella to wear a string bikini. I understand being comfortable in your own skin, however Cinderella is not a little girl. She burns like crazy. I'm sorry but at our house she has to wear the equivalent to a 1 piece with a shirt. The rule would still be the same if she was stick thin because of how she burns. SPF 50 doesn't even save her!

Her mom is more concerned about making sure that Cinderella understands the importance of a good tattoo & piercing than birth control. No 13 year old needs to have a belly button ring with the promise of when she turns 15 she'll let her get her belly button pierced. With the way things are going, there will be no piercings or tattoos because she'll be a mom by then. Sad to say, but it's true. Her mom is way more concerned with being a friend than a mom. Sickening to say the least.