I thought by the last 2 conversations in the car that I had put a bit of a stop to the "I wants" from Cinderella. Apparently not. I got a text yesterday of her telling me when her school dance was.
I replied with, "AWESOME!"
Then she said, "I still don't have a dress! pooy!"
I said, "We I guess your mom aught to take you shopping huh?"
She replied with, "We never go shopping." (Bs might I add)
I said, "Well there's a first for everything!"
She said, "What?"
I said, "You said that you guys never go shopping, so there's a first for everything."
Then she went on to say that, "They only spend their money on groceries."
Wrong answer. They had a party last Friday night, Saturday, 2 weeks ago tomorrow they were at the bar & have recently gone on vacation & shall I mention the amount of booze they drink? I'm sorry Cinderella, they have money, but you are not important enough to spend it on.
Your dad sends money every.single.month & we pay for ALL of your travelling expenses, so really? Talk to your mom. I never got into that with her though. I just said you need to talk to your dad. THEN SHE HAD THE DAMN AUDACITY TO ASK WHICH DAD TO SPEAK TO. Are you kidding me? Really? Which dad? FUCK THAT! The one who DOESN'T have DUI's, the one who isn't an alcoholic, the one who spends more on you PER MONTH (Which equates to more PER YEAR) than your piece of shit step dad & mom do. I digress.
The answer was a simple no. I told her I loved her & left it at that. Here's the problem, she asks me but never asks my honey about it. I just tell my honey about it. I really would love to sit her down & talk to her, boldly about everything, however I can't because A) It's not my place, B) It's in the court papers that we can't talk badly about the other party & I'm pretty sure I couldn't make it through that conversation without speaking poorly about her shitty mom & step dad.
I asked my daughter if she wanted to spend this weekend with Cinderella & she said, "No mom she doesn't talk to me." Which is true. Ever since her bitch ass mother kept her away from us for 4 months she is a completely different child.
She texted me 2 days ago about how she started her period & how she hates mother nature & how bad she's cramping. I said, "I'm sorry honey, you really need to talk to your mom about putting you on birth control." Yesterday was the first mention ever from my daughter about having cramps & I am calling to get her put on birth control to settle her hormones & hopefully work out her cycles. She's currently having a cycle every 14 days. 1 week on 1 week off.
Cinderella needs to be on birth control because if not, we're gonna be grandparents by the time she's 15. Why? Because her mom is DYING to have another baby in the house. I'm sorry but if my child had cycles like Cinderella I would've had her on birth control long ago. Cinderella has nasty cycles. I feel SO bad for her. This has been going on for her since she was 10!!! Instead tattoos & piercings are more important to talk about.
My poor Cinderella has a very skewed vision of life. Yes, when you're a mom you should do everything to stop your child's pain, misery etc. In the past 6 weeks Cinderella has asked for clothes to go on vacation with (even though we bought her a ton last summer & they still fit her), 500.00 to go on a DC trip, & now she wants a formal dress for a dance. No. Not happening. that's easily 1K in 6 weeks that she wants to spend. Get a job honey. If it were my children asking for this stuff, it would be a no go. Go out, raise your own money & then we'll talk.
I do love her but omg this I want junk is driving me INSANE! You need to prioritize things & not expect it all to be handed on a silver platter.
Friday, April 27, 2012
Sunday, April 22, 2012
Here We Come!!
Onto my situation, the personal one.
The ex took me to court back in September/October & said that I was refusing visits. I spent a shitload of money on my attorney to prove that he was a douche bag & that I was not in contempt. The case was thrown out because I had too much evidence proving that I was not in contempt & that I was offering the children to him anytime he wanted them.
We had the court case moved to the county that I lived in.
In December I got papers saying that I would be ok with the current support order that was drafted in 2008. I didn't sign them. I said, "He's making more money, I want a discovery of income done on him. Subpoena his financial records." I think I annoyed my attorney with this. The ex has not paid child support since 8/31/2011. We subpoena'd his financial records & I got a colorful text that said, "YOU FUCKING BITCH!" I smiled. Yes, yes I am. Do NOT under any circumstances fuck with my family. I tend to become the biggest bitch you'll ever know. I love my family & I will go to the ends of the earth to protect them. We 'discovered' an extra $25,000.00 that he wasn't forthcoming about.
To date he still has not paid child support since August 2011. We currently have an order in the courts for him being in contempt by refusing to pay child support. As soon as that is stamped & dated we have a follow up order requesting an up in child support plus the arrears.
He has seen the kids once since the beginning of this year. That's right in almost 5 months he's seen them once. Remember that whole contempt on me? He's definitely not getting the father of the year award.
This is where we stand. I'm awaiting the text telling me what a fucking bitch I am again. It wouldn't surprise me if he became homicidal over this. I prefer suicidal because the SSI would be quite a bit more than the child support. Yes, I'm a bitch like that!
The ex took me to court back in September/October & said that I was refusing visits. I spent a shitload of money on my attorney to prove that he was a douche bag & that I was not in contempt. The case was thrown out because I had too much evidence proving that I was not in contempt & that I was offering the children to him anytime he wanted them.
We had the court case moved to the county that I lived in.
In December I got papers saying that I would be ok with the current support order that was drafted in 2008. I didn't sign them. I said, "He's making more money, I want a discovery of income done on him. Subpoena his financial records." I think I annoyed my attorney with this. The ex has not paid child support since 8/31/2011. We subpoena'd his financial records & I got a colorful text that said, "YOU FUCKING BITCH!" I smiled. Yes, yes I am. Do NOT under any circumstances fuck with my family. I tend to become the biggest bitch you'll ever know. I love my family & I will go to the ends of the earth to protect them. We 'discovered' an extra $25,000.00 that he wasn't forthcoming about.
To date he still has not paid child support since August 2011. We currently have an order in the courts for him being in contempt by refusing to pay child support. As soon as that is stamped & dated we have a follow up order requesting an up in child support plus the arrears.
He has seen the kids once since the beginning of this year. That's right in almost 5 months he's seen them once. Remember that whole contempt on me? He's definitely not getting the father of the year award.
This is where we stand. I'm awaiting the text telling me what a fucking bitch I am again. It wouldn't surprise me if he became homicidal over this. I prefer suicidal because the SSI would be quite a bit more than the child support. Yes, I'm a bitch like that!
Round & Round we go.
Wow, the need to update 2 different sections of my life.. how weird. (After typing this out I've decided to make it 2 separate blog posts)
First things first, since this one is about being a step mom, I'll update on Cinderella first. She's doing ok. Not great but ok. Her mother on the other hand is being psychotic. We had a fantastic lesson in this when her mother refused to let her grandmother take her to her brother's baby shower because she was mad at her son. Telling Cinderella that he was a bad influence. Really? That's your daughter's best friend. The son that YOU raised & you're now telling your daughter that he's a bad influence? Way to go dumb ass!!!
My Cinderella got in the car a few weeks ago & said that we NEEDED to go shopping because her mom & step dad were going on vacation & she needed clothes. I said, "Well sweetheart, if your mom & step dad has money to go on vacation then they have money to take you shopping." As heartless as this sounds, we just bought a TON of clothes for her last summer that she STILL fits in & that flatter her figure. She said, "Well my mom takes my clothes." I said, "That's an issue for you & your mom to figure out." I talked to my honey about it & he agreed. He is not funding her wardrobe, especially when we spend a ton in child support & travelling expenses.
This past time that I got my Cinderella she said, "I have a field trip at the end of next year & my mom said that if you guys pay for 1/2 she'll pay for 1/2." I said, "That was nice of her, how much is the trip?" She said, "$1,000.00." I said, "If it's your trip then I think that you should have to raise money as well instead of just having the money given to you." She said, "If I don't go, I'll be the only one in my family who doesn't get to go!" I said, "I suggest you start raising money then huh? A friend that you know, raised $2,000.00 to go to Hawaii & she's younger than you." Cinderella said, "How?" I said, "She worked her butt off & went door to door asking for donations." I said, "You'll have to talk to your dad about it, he's the one that makes the decisions about money concerning you." I texted my honey on the way home & he flipped shit. He said, "Ah no, she needs to raise SOME money on her own. I will help but not 1/2." Problem is whatever we don't give her mom & grandma will give so that way she doesn't have to raise any on her own. We think that she should have to EARN some money herself.
I discussed this with my child who is the same age & she said, "Yeah, we got the same brochure mom, ours said $2000.00, I know we don't have that kind of money so I just pitched it." Bless her.
We don't mind supporting Cinderella in her adventures but for her to expect money is ridiculous. Not to mention the exorbitant amount that we pay in child support & health insurance for her. We know that that money does not go for her living expenses because utilities are shut off at any given time & her mom & step dad drink it away. They have people showing up from rent-to-own places while Cinderella is home alone repo'ing TV's. I mean really. Come on now. Stop over-extending yourself!
Recently we got papers in the mail saying that his ex wants to keep the visitation arrangements the same. No, we are still going for FULL custody. While they were on vacation her step dad posted every single day about how drunk he was. FANTASTIC! They allowed Cinderella to wear a string bikini. I understand being comfortable in your own skin, however Cinderella is not a little girl. She burns like crazy. I'm sorry but at our house she has to wear the equivalent to a 1 piece with a shirt. The rule would still be the same if she was stick thin because of how she burns. SPF 50 doesn't even save her!
Her mom is more concerned about making sure that Cinderella understands the importance of a good tattoo & piercing than birth control. No 13 year old needs to have a belly button ring with the promise of when she turns 15 she'll let her get her belly button pierced. With the way things are going, there will be no piercings or tattoos because she'll be a mom by then. Sad to say, but it's true. Her mom is way more concerned with being a friend than a mom. Sickening to say the least.
First things first, since this one is about being a step mom, I'll update on Cinderella first. She's doing ok. Not great but ok. Her mother on the other hand is being psychotic. We had a fantastic lesson in this when her mother refused to let her grandmother take her to her brother's baby shower because she was mad at her son. Telling Cinderella that he was a bad influence. Really? That's your daughter's best friend. The son that YOU raised & you're now telling your daughter that he's a bad influence? Way to go dumb ass!!!
My Cinderella got in the car a few weeks ago & said that we NEEDED to go shopping because her mom & step dad were going on vacation & she needed clothes. I said, "Well sweetheart, if your mom & step dad has money to go on vacation then they have money to take you shopping." As heartless as this sounds, we just bought a TON of clothes for her last summer that she STILL fits in & that flatter her figure. She said, "Well my mom takes my clothes." I said, "That's an issue for you & your mom to figure out." I talked to my honey about it & he agreed. He is not funding her wardrobe, especially when we spend a ton in child support & travelling expenses.
This past time that I got my Cinderella she said, "I have a field trip at the end of next year & my mom said that if you guys pay for 1/2 she'll pay for 1/2." I said, "That was nice of her, how much is the trip?" She said, "$1,000.00." I said, "If it's your trip then I think that you should have to raise money as well instead of just having the money given to you." She said, "If I don't go, I'll be the only one in my family who doesn't get to go!" I said, "I suggest you start raising money then huh? A friend that you know, raised $2,000.00 to go to Hawaii & she's younger than you." Cinderella said, "How?" I said, "She worked her butt off & went door to door asking for donations." I said, "You'll have to talk to your dad about it, he's the one that makes the decisions about money concerning you." I texted my honey on the way home & he flipped shit. He said, "Ah no, she needs to raise SOME money on her own. I will help but not 1/2." Problem is whatever we don't give her mom & grandma will give so that way she doesn't have to raise any on her own. We think that she should have to EARN some money herself.
I discussed this with my child who is the same age & she said, "Yeah, we got the same brochure mom, ours said $2000.00, I know we don't have that kind of money so I just pitched it." Bless her.
We don't mind supporting Cinderella in her adventures but for her to expect money is ridiculous. Not to mention the exorbitant amount that we pay in child support & health insurance for her. We know that that money does not go for her living expenses because utilities are shut off at any given time & her mom & step dad drink it away. They have people showing up from rent-to-own places while Cinderella is home alone repo'ing TV's. I mean really. Come on now. Stop over-extending yourself!
Recently we got papers in the mail saying that his ex wants to keep the visitation arrangements the same. No, we are still going for FULL custody. While they were on vacation her step dad posted every single day about how drunk he was. FANTASTIC! They allowed Cinderella to wear a string bikini. I understand being comfortable in your own skin, however Cinderella is not a little girl. She burns like crazy. I'm sorry but at our house she has to wear the equivalent to a 1 piece with a shirt. The rule would still be the same if she was stick thin because of how she burns. SPF 50 doesn't even save her!
Her mom is more concerned about making sure that Cinderella understands the importance of a good tattoo & piercing than birth control. No 13 year old needs to have a belly button ring with the promise of when she turns 15 she'll let her get her belly button pierced. With the way things are going, there will be no piercings or tattoos because she'll be a mom by then. Sad to say, but it's true. Her mom is way more concerned with being a friend than a mom. Sickening to say the least.
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