Rule #7 Attorney & Court

GET A GOOD ATTORNEY!!! Seriously, it's dealing with the kids, GET A GOOD ATTORNEY! I can NOT stress this enough!!!

My attorney was amazing in my divorce. He wiped the floor with my ex and I received alimony, child support, 401K etc. He was awesome. I got the visitation stuff that I wanted AND for a judge who rarely does anything BUT 50/50 custody, I was awarded sole custody of the kids. I have custody of their doctor appointments, schooling etc. My word is THE final word.

Unfortunately my attorney committed suicide back in February. RIP sir. I loved him AND his secretary. Now someone else has taken over that I don't care for nearly as much. Him OR the secretary.

I met with the 'new' attorney back in April/May..somewhere in there. I was not impressed by him. Not at all. He is NOT even 1/2 the attorney my old attorney was. I felt safe with my old attorney. This one, not so much. I'm meeting with a new attorney on Friday. I can't wait. This is the same attorney that my honey used in his court case. If we could take this one up north for my honey's custody stuffs we would!

I am headed back to court because I'm being sued for being in contempt of court. I'm ready for it. Let's go. With a good attorney you don't have to worry about much. If this means you have to feast on Ramen for months then do it. A good attorney is the difference between hell and hope. My ex's attorney, that my ex eventually stiffed for money, was hitting on me DURING court. Get a good attorney.

Before you go back to court & issue notice to your ex that you aren't happy, try discussing it. It's been 3 years since I've been in court & I was content with everything. I was content with pulling child support from only 1 job instead of all 3 that he works. Apparently he is not, so therefor I am no longer content with only pulling child support from 1 job.

Stop and think before you file contempt charges. What you write is an affidavit & is considered sworn testimony. If your ex can prove you wrong, you have perjured yourself. Judges don't like liars. However if you are the defendant in the case & CAN prove that the plaintiff has perjured themselves, this is awesome for you. *bows*

Before going to court sit back and think about WHY you are suing the other person. Is it worth it? Play out all the scenarios. Have you done everything in your power to make things work? Have you fostered a relationship between ex and the children? Does s/he owe you money? Is there a chance that this could turn out poorly for you?

It seems as such the ones who WANT to go to court consider themselves the 'underdog' or victim. If you are an adult, unless it's a heinous crime, you are NOT a victim. A victim is a helpless person who has no choice. Those would be the children. So often people forget that this is NOT about them, it's about the children.

All of this being said, I'm ready for my court date. I'm ready for my honey's court date. Let's go. I'm ready to rumble.