Morals & Common Sense

I never thought I'd have to post a blog like this but I do.

My mom has been fighting lung cancer for approximately 2 years. She's been through 15 different chemo's & cocktails of medicine that was supposed to help. It probably did for a while, however she is now on hospice care. A week ago this past Sunday we got the news that the tumor in her right lung has consumed the lung. She is currently only using her left lung to continue living. She's had a DNR for a while. This all came as quite a shock to us considering that she had been told at the beginning of October that making it til Christmas was "No problem." He's now been fired for the simple fact that my mom is now on hospice care. As of a week ago they weren't sure if she would make it to this week. She did. Thank God.

You might be wondering how this ties into being a step mom. Here goes.

My fiance's ex has cut any and all contact between his daughter & himself. She's changed her phone numbers, completely blocked us from Facebook, etc. Due to this we have no way of contacting Cinderella. We contacted a friend of ours who lives up the road from Cinderella. She texted Cinderella and asked her to come up to her house so that they could call us & we could let Cinderella know what was going on. Cinderella's phone was sitting on the counter & her mom got it. Obviously all hell broke lose.

According to Cinderella's mom, we should have to go through her to talk to Cinderella. We aren't allowed to speak to her unless the phone is on speaker phone. Give me a break. It's her DAD! Her real one, the one that DOESN'T have DUI convictions, isn't an alcoholic, has a valid drivers license etc. We did speak to Cinderella and told her what was going on. Obviously she didn't say much because her mom was hovering over her like a vulture.

My Fiance' had texted his ex to see if we could have Cinderella so that way she could see my mom, who is on her death bed. We got a text 24 hours later that said, "Due to Facebook drama that has NOTHING to do with you, you can't see Cinderella." A few seconds later it said, "If you are alone, you can see her." Control freak anyone? This was after we got messages, 6 months ago, stating how close Cinderella was with my folks.

Cinderella's mom has repeatedly told MANY people that we will never see Cinderella again. This is a problem for her, both legally, and morally. My mom is on her death bed, Cinderella has said that she wants to be here when my mom passes. The other day she went up to our friend's house & told our friend that "She wasn't allowed to cry or she'd get in trouble." I don't have a be Lady Tremaine, her mom is. From top to bottom.

Then of course it was thrown in our face that we haven't requested to see Cinderella in 3 months. After being repeatedly told that we'd never see her again, why would we even request it? Ah, yes, it's contact with my fiance' that she wants to sleep with. It gives her control.

Unfortunately we are done playing her games. My mom has made a video for Cinderella to see since there's pretty much at 100% chance that she won't see Cinderella again before she dies. Soon everything will be in the courts hands. The outcome is looking bright. Especially with the stunts that her mom is pulling.

If you are a mom, for the love of God, put your selfish reasons aside. If you don't let your child see a dying relative, regardless of who it is, they will hate you. They won't get the closure that they need from someone they love.

All of this is because my honey didn't leave me to sleep with her. She believes that we are trying to ruin her life. We are not. Her own actions are ruining her life. The truth about who she's been sleeping with, will come out. The instability of her home, will come out. The psychoticness of who she is, will come out. Last but not least, we will get to see Cinderella again. We love her so much despite what her mom & step dad are telling her.

To my mom, we are fighting to see Cinderella, once you make it to Heaven, please let God know. We love you.